SIC, Shit Talk, and Bleed
the meanest social network ever

First, it's probably best to remind everyone, on both ends of any conflict, that your IC beef should not be making you upset OOC. That's a tall order since the game is very high stakes at times, but it's best to remind yourself that appropriate in-character insults are directed at your character, not you.

Second, I have seen a lot of IC insults that insinuate some level of OOC wrongdoing in others, which makes the first point difficult to stick to. Mainly, I see a lot of things said along the lines of 'you do nothing', and this has been a fad that's outlived it's welcome by a large margin. It doesn't make sense from an IC standpoint; if a character is bad at their job, say that. If they're bad at running events, say that. If they're bad at networking, say that.

The catch-all 'do nothing' is oftentimes a quasi-IC callout that insinuates a player has nothing to offer or contribute to the game at large, and that's not cool in my eyes. It's completely nonsensical from an IC standpoint, as I have never heard even the most vitriolic people in real life use 'you do nothing' as some kind of insult. It is bringing up some imaginary OOC scoreboard of waves made, instead of attacking the IC qualities, flaws, or actions of characters.

Can we all agree to do better? I sorely miss seeing IC toxicity that felt IC and themely. If I'm overreacting from the sidelines, maybe the thread is not necessary after all, but I'm hoping this reaches the right ears.

Falling back on 'you do nothing' is pretty uninspired and mixes OOC and IC. As I said in the original post, if the character isn't doing enough, point out specific things they're failing at, which is much better and less likely to cause bleed, in my eyes, while still being scathing.

"If you love what you do, you will never work a day in your life." has been attributed to Confucious.

If you as a player enjoy the time you spend playing Sindome, be happy with that.

If you find yourself comparing yourself to others, be kind and gentle and compassionate with yourself. You are valuable as a person. Your worth is not determined by your "output" as a character. You are no less or no more valued or appreciated as a member of the community than any other player is.

Remember that 90%+ of people being crappy to each other is projection. According to Jung's theory, people project their own shortcomings onto others. They project the parts of their subconscious that they cannot accept about themselves. We see it in politics all the time. The anti-gay / family values politician who ends up being gay, or having a gay family member. The law enforcement officer who hates corruption, but ends up being dirty. The Mixer who sits in their apartment all day doing nothing, and rants on SIC about how little other people do.

Starting to see a pattern?

Have fun.

Game on. =)

Hateful rhetoric against LGBTQ+ people actually just being queer people self-oppressing is a justification that is popular to shed any cishet responsibility for it, but has not been shown to be statistically true.

“I think one of the favored explanations — because it’s a good story, a good narrative — is the Freudian idea that a person is sexually repressed and has unconscious feelings that they don’t understand or maybe aren’t even aware of, but it leads them to engage in these hostile interactions towards people who are gay,” says Greg Herek, a professor of psychology at the University of California, Davis, who’s published several studies on anti-gay prejudice. “That probably happens, but it seems to be very much not the way that prejudice gets expressed in most cases.”

“It’s kind of a cliché to say people who are strongly prejudiced against sexual minorities are themselves gay or lesbian,” he adds. “That’s not the common story — for most people it comes from learning those cultural attitudes, not from their own sexuality.”

We all experience bleed sometimes, even the vets. Bleed behavior is pretty obvious, if you catch yourself bleeding just log out until you cool off and you can move on with your RP.

As for this specific instance, personally I would just ignore it if I knew it was bleed and I would hope the other player changes their behavior and if they don't then I would report them.

If I didn't know it was bleed I might do something about it if it becomes persistent behavior. But from an IC standpoint and without further context, its a pretty weak insult tbh. I think the problem here is 'knowing' its bleed and taking it personally.

Reacting IC to bleed can generate even more bleed, it can spread around and escalate the situation and then you might end up with an exsanguination.