The problem is that the gender-neutral terms come with ze/zir attached to them, no matter if you want that or not. And that leads to confusion if it goes against what the player intended.
by which i mean something like '@shortdesc feminine' to use things like 'curvy', etc
You can simply hard-code male/female/other descriptions into clothing and the like and use whatever pronoun or shortdesc you like. But you're right, poses will use zir and ze.
You can use pronoun substitution in your @description, @nakeds and clothing. This will make them match your poses and stuff. Of course it's going to be "ze/zir" everywhere, not "him/he" or "her/she", but at least they'll match.
It sounds like what you're asking for is to completely separate gender from shortdesc. In which case, it's like asking for the 3 lists to go away and just have one shortdesc list with everything on it.
