(Edited by Kain at 6:35 pm on Feb. 14, 2004)
(Edited by Kain at 6:35 pm on Feb. 14, 2004)
If you're in the mood for a little lesson in culture, Valentine's Day is celebrated very differently in Japan. It was imported, of course, by the American occupation after the war, and overlapped with a love festival occurring elsewhere in the month whose date is lost to time now. However, there's a different set of ground rules.
Valentine's Day corresponds to White Day, which is in March, and is day for women and girls to buy gifts- though usually, home-cooked foods or sweet treats are preferred- for men and boys that they like. It isn't out of the question for a girl to have more than one valentine, though if she's in a committed relationship, it's probably more akin to the mutuality experienced here.
On White Day, the opposite is true: men give gifts to the girls they like. Since there's generally an expectation of reciprocity (as there is with pretty much every gift-giving in Japan), Valentine's Day can be a real pain in the butt for me with my male friends who celebrate this way, as I pretty much have to ask them if they're going to buy me anything later in the year to make sure I get them something in-return-in-advance (if that makes sense): since I can't always be sure if our friendship is such that we'd exchange gifts, and I don't want to place that obligation on someone next month.
That being said, love is a load of crap, and so on, and the commercialization thereof makes people feel obliged to force themselves to think or feel in a way that just might not be convenient or realistic at that moment. I just happen to really like ritual- and I like the idea of a gender-equal standard for celebration- women should not be intangible, magical beings to be showered with gifts for the sake of their favor.
Ja ne!
Quote: from Murasaki on 4:42 pm on Feb. 14, 2004[br] women should not be intangible, magical beings to be showered with gifts for the sake of their favor.
Wait, so you're saying women aren't magical? Damn, well, there goes that theory. Let's see, what should I use now. Hmm, Women are aliens. Yeah, that sounds good.
My wife and I don't do anything big since it falls right between our birthdays, but I usually get flowers and make a point to say I love you. �Is that really so bad?
Now, Secretary's Day, there's a corporate creation for the purpose of making money. �And let's not talk about what Christmas has turned into…
Happy (belated) Valentine's Day.
SO I decided to post about something a little darker; Viva Chi-Town!
".2122 North Clark Street. It was here, on Valentine's Day 1929, that the most spectacular mob hit in gangland history took place….. the St. Valentine's Day Massacre.
The building was called the S-M-C Cartage Company and was a red, brick structure on Clark Street. The events that led to the massacre began on the morning of the 14th. A group of men had gathered at the warehouse that morning, set up by a Detroit gangster who told Moran that a truck was on its way to Chicago.
One of them was Johnny May, an ex-safecracker who had been hired by George "Bugs" Moran as an auto mechanic. He was working on a truck that morning, with his dog tied to the bumper, while six other men waited for the truck of hijacked whiskey to arrive. The men were Frank and Pete Gusenberg, who were supposed to meet Moran and pick up two empty trucks to drive to Detroit and pick up smuggled Canadian whiskey; James Clark, Moran's brother-in-law; Adam Heyer; Al Weinshank; and Reinhardt Schwimmer, a young optometrist who had befriended Moran and hung around the liquor warehouse just for the thrill of rubbing shoulders with gangsters.
Bugs Moran was already late for the morning meeting. He was due to arrive at 10:30 but didn't even leave for the rendezvous, in the company of Willie Marks and Ted Newberry, until several minutes after that."
For more, ignore my theory on link-clicking and GO HERE.
Also, for the record, I bought my guy Battleship.
Oh yea, some of those various and sundry little candies/flowers/whatnots too.
Funnily enough, his mom got me more gifts than he did :P
4/c Love, baby…hoo-ah.
(Edited by Lena at 8:46 am on Feb. 15, 2004)
(Edited by Lena at 8:48 am on Feb. 15, 2004)
Okay, you're right. Woman are very special. We're wonderful, magical beings that you aren't meant to understand or contemplate. We're more attractive than you, perpetually desirable, and your only chance of getting laid short of being gay or something inflatable and latex.
We absolutely deserve to be 'made happy.' We should be showered with gifts and praise, and you should definitely alter your behavior to please us- because, after all, if your woman doesn't like something about you, it must obviously be wrong. Your highest achievement in life is to find that woman that will stay with you until you can marry her and to have 8 kids with her.
Are men special? Of course not. Why do you think we have Ladies' Night at bars? To get pretty women to come in, of course. Do you really think we'd drink alcohol if we weren't being celebrated as the inscrutable goddesses that we are? We've got better things to do.
If you're going to love a woman, love her as an individual. Not as her gender. And if you have a shred of respect for her, respect full and equal attention in return. Make her as responsible for satisfying your whims as you feel you are for satisfying hers.
Or the Lost-A-Hand-Of-Poker Massacre. Or the Caught-Best-Friend-Shtucking-His-Girlfriend Massacre. Or the I'm-Not-Paying-That-Much-For-Fake-Chicken Massacre. Or the Who-The-Hell-Stole-My-Teddy-Bear Massacre, man that was a messy one.