Okay. I will come out and say I don't like the current state of the sex rules as they just feel messy and contradictory and rely on terms that mean different things to different people and make assumptions about people's mindsets. They try and clearly lay out what is and is not okay but manage to cause as much confusion as they provide clarity,
That being said, I am not staff and can't change things. I also fine my disagreements slightly different from what many have posted here. Lastly, I find myself bombarded by hyperbole when reading the objections which makes it hard for what would otherwise be good points to be heard.
Most importantly, I am not staff can can not change things. But I am a player anc control how my character acts, as do all of you! This is a good thing in my mind as there are things we can do as players. A lot of things. Some possible ideas:
Nobody cares about people being deviants because the world seems to be depicted as a bunch of deviants (I am not using the word 'deviant' with negative connotations here):
Then play your characters with this mindset. Wave off these kinds of things. If someone tries to smear Sam for sleeping with Bob and have 'recorded evidence', wave it off as nothing or even question the validity of the material. Suggest they got a favor from an NLM tech who manufactured it. Or that you have sex with people like Bib all the time.
Capture without Consent vs Sex without consent:
Capture without consent has always been a part of Sindome. There are lots of pictures floating about of naked people in the same bed used to prove relations or to sully someone's rep by their choice of partner. This is nothing new. I support capture without consent (though I think there should ALWAYS be a tell that someone just recorded or photographed someone else, or currently is, so that they can try and do something about it).
But nothing can force your character to engage in sexual acts. I know that for some the ERP is very much enjoyed and an important part of play. I in no way think poorly of this and feel that people should enjoy the game as long as they follow the roles. I've fought against OOC shaming of players for engaging in ERP for most of my time playing the game.
The fact is, however, that capture is wide open so consider this while playing. Maybe it means you fade to black more. Maybe you buy and learn to use a cybernetics scanner. Maybe you stop engaging in ERP. Maybe you stop playing. While I think this would result in the game losing a lot of wonderful players and I would hate it, I would totally understand if that was what you felt you needed to do.
Since it's OOCly not allowed to create fake sex tapes or pictures, we know they are always true:
I agree that this is problematic (if this isn't a misunderstanding) but, again, we as players can do something about it. We might OOCly know it has to be a real capture but that doesn't mean our PCs do. There are no IC rules about this. So call them fake anyways and, when your character hears accusations that they might be fake, have them ICly take those accusations seriously even if you OOCly know it's not possible.
I can't stress enough how much impact the player base can have on culture. If you feel that it's ICly possible to fake these and that it's ICly unlikely most things would be shamed, push those views with your characters.
I am not saying to ignore the rules. We have to follow them. I am saying that we have a lot of room to help define IC culture via IC actions. Our characters can give an IC act or claim weight or make it feel like it's nothing. We also get to decide what we expose ourselves to. I am just saying to use the tools we have to create the culture we want while following the rules.
Also, keep making suggestions on how to improve. Suggestions on how to do better have moer value and are usually taken better that simple complaints.