Farewell babes!

Simply written, I'm too sad to play Sindome now and need to retire from it.

I used to be someone who had gotten a foothold on dealing with loss (a good friend of mine died years before I registered here), but unfortunately this sort of grief is back again (those same feelings brought up again in losing players I ooc'ly considered friends). I'm not dealing with it very well and to prevent any further re-vamping of this, I have to go.

I'm going to be retiring to casual games to chill out.

Thank you for having me. This place is wonderful. My recommendation will stay, I hope new blood arrives to join and stay in my wake.

Good luck guys, you'll probably see me around on Gossip in a social mud chilling under a tree somewhere. I'll stay respectful of the TOS when I'm there, and I hope you will too.

I love y'all!

Feel better soon!

You've always got a home here. A horrible, terrible rat-infested home.

Catch you around.

A lot of the events that happen IC and people dying/retiring for IC/OOC reasons are, for the lack of a better word, depressing, and frankly, I've had moments where I doubt if this is good for me or not. But at the end of the day, I'm just realizing just how much stronger and more resilient I have become since facing these events again.

I hope you come back. Because just like me, I know you've become stronger. Because many are stronger in the broken places.

I can totally see why you were so upset. It's a really awkward thing to xhelp about, too, because it amounts to calling out the situation and that's a bit anxiety inducing. I'm sure it's not too late to xhelp about it and discuss your disappointment. I seriously doubt the staff meant to trample all over your sensibilities.

I've been in similar situations where characters I was close to seemed like they were being puppeted by different people and it's always a bit jarring, doubly so when it's integral to your own RP.

That's not cool at all.

Not all goodbyes need to be posted. Hell, you could've just used your last post first.

You could've written to Slither or another senior staff member and expressed your frustrations, your concerns and asked if the situation could be resolved in a different way.

Instead you used the death of a friend and how you felt then to how you felt now losing players you considered OOC friends. I don't even know.

But I guess that cyberpunk-esque manipulation extends to the BGBB.

I hope everyone involved takes the time to examine this situation, and how people reacted for the sake of better developing, like. Empathy.

I hope that clears this up. No, I would never use the death of someone to garner sympathy. That's disgusting.

I will say I was acting in good faith based on the information the GM's had been provided and I did not mean to ruin the game for you the way I ended up doing.

You're a good player and it sucks to see you go. Take care.

help bleed

In Game.

I bring this up because I've been playing here less than a year, and considerably less time than Supermarket and some of the other players mentioned in this thread.

Despite that, I already permed out one character over Emotional Bleed. And I did that after only playing for about a month.

This game creates powerful emotions. When something major happens to your character, it is very easy to take it personally. It is very easy to get personally upset IRL. It is so easy and so natural to do, that there is a help file about it

help bleed

Read it. Think about it.

When something major happens to your character, it's a very good idea to take a couple of days off. Step away from the computer. Log out of the MOO.

Taken straight from the help file…

"CAUTION

In most cases, bleed is inevitable. Informational and and Emotional bleed. The important thing is to handle it gracefully and try to minimize it. ... And if IC events are making you feel upset, sad or angry OOCly, take a step back. Log off and go for a walk. Play a different game for a while. Then come back when you are ready."

Based on what I know now, I only have one more request to make.

I can draw the conclusion based on how everything went, that the person in question started this storyline with not only myself but one other person, we were part of a faction, and then they walked away without any intent to interact with us at all. There was definitely some OOC knowledge that they were going to do things this way, and that's what the issue is. There was some deception on part of the author.

Please reach the other person and either resolve this with them or free them of the situation. Don't leave them in the mess that the original author now has zero intent to clean up.

I'm really really saying this with no barbs attached, but you really overestimating your agency in the game and how things go.

Still, I know I'll miss you.

People offer you (specifically) sympathy and guidance to other players (generally) who might find themselves in a similar situation.

Your response to tell people to STFU and go "fix" things in the way you think they should be fixed.

Yeah, I'd like to say that I'm sad to see you go… but I'd be lying.

You're airing IC grievances in an OOC forum, and then being an unpleasant person on top of it. I fail to see the loss to the community here.